Dear Tina…y Teresa

Dear Tina,

My girlfriend is a mooch. I know it’s chivalrous to pay for dinner and dates but sometimes too much can be too much. I have a part-time job after school and I am trying to save money for college and a car, but it’s hard to do so when she’s draining my pockets. She always wants me to buy her expensive gifts and take her out to fancy restaurants. I’m all for spoiling my boo once in a while but I need to save my money. What should I tell her to make her realize I need to cut down on my spending?

Not a Gold Digger, But…

Dear Gold Digger,

Girls are hard work. When you constantly shower them in gifts, they come to expect more and more things. Let your girlfriend know that you really need to concentrate on saving money for college and a car and hopefully she will understand. If she is really into you and not just your money, everything should work out for the best. If she gets angry and demanding, just end the relationship right there, she’s not worth it. Then, you’ll have even more money and can maybe splurge on yourself once in a while.

Dear Tina,

I accidently called my boyfriend by the wrong name. He was upset, but even more so when he realized I called him by my ex-boyfriends name. It was an honest mistake and it’s not like I was actually thinking about my ex-boyfriend but he took it really personally. I tried to explain to him that nothing was going on but now he’s suspicious that I might have a secret relationship with my ex again. I’m really close to breaking up with him because his accusations are getting too ridiculous, I’m tired of it.

That’s Not My Name

Dear Not My Name,

Honestly you’re boyfriend sounds a little crazy. If you really feel like he’s getting a bit too ridiculous, then cut off ties with him completely. You don’t want to get into a controlling relationship, especially so young. High school is about meeting new people and taking yourself too seriously. Go out there and have a little fun without having to worry about a crazy boyfriend.

Dear Tina,

I am a little worried about all of the fights that have broken out recently. It is only the first few weeks of school and I fear for the safety of the student body. My parents know that a lot of fights are going on and are thinking about moving me to a different school. I really like T.C. and I do not want to leave but I know I can’t do anything about the fights. What should I say to my parents to convince them that it will be okay?

Peace, Love, Titans.

Dear Peace,

You’re right; you can’t do anything about the fights breaking out. I understand that your parents are a little worried and they have a right to be. Ask them to talk to the administration on what they are doing to crack down on the situation. If they feel like they are not taking the appropriate measures, your parents will probably transfer you out of T.C. In this situation, there really is nothing you can do but hope for the best.

Querida Teresa, Mi novio quiere que yo tenga relaciones sexuales con
el pero yo no quiero, porque recién hemos comenzado a salir. Mi
problema es que tengo miedo que si no tengo relaciones me deje por
otra que le de lo que el quiere. Ayúdame por favor.

Sinceramente Timida

Timida: Tu problema es típico pero a la vez muy serio. Lo primero que
tengo que decirte es que nadie en este mundo puede obligar a nadie a
hacer algo que no quieren hacer. Tu problema pasa mucho entre las
adolescentes y también entre mujeres adultas. No te sientas mal por
que tú no eres la única que esta pasando por esta situación. Una de
las cosas que tu debes de hacer es hablar con tu novio y decirle que
tu no estas preparada para tener relaciones sexuales con el. Si el te
quiere y te respeta el entenderá y esperara hasta que tu estés lista.
Si el entiende entonces eso significa que el te quiere y te respeta,
pero si pasa a lo contrarío eso significa que lo único que el quiere
es tener relaciones sexuales contigo. Un hombre así no vale la pena.
Lo que tienes que hacer es mandarlo a la luna, y mandarlo a tomar
clases en como tratar a las mujeres. No tengas miedo y enfréntalo, y
recuerda que algún día encontraras la persona indicada para ti.
Cuídate y no tengas miedo.